Insecurities

The mirror doesn’t show you what you like, but rather who you are. Let that sink in.

As fickle beings, we all are vulnerable to insecurities. Some worried over their height, weight, facial features, and even handwriting.

Insecurities are like parasites. They leech off you and that’s how they survive. They take away so much until nothing is left. A bowl filled with so much life, gets drained until it’s fully empty. The worst form of hatred is self hatred after all. Because no matter how much you’re loved by all, if you don’t love yourself, their love won’t be valued. How do we get rid of them? How do we get rid of these leeches and save ourselves? The answer can be found in the question, “how do we come to love ourselves?”

We are evolved species. We have evolved and grown overtime. We have spread all around the globe in each and every country. We know there are different time zones, different temperature zones, different habitats, and each location on each part of the earth has different living conditions. When everything is different, how can we expect all human beings to be the same. To look the same. To feel the same. To like the same. And to even eat the same. Thus, individuality becomes natural. But we haven’t made accepting our individuality, our humanity, a natural occurrence.

Some of us might be too skinny. Some of us might be a little short of obesity. Some of us might be too tall. Some of us might be too short. But amongst the difference in physical features, there are other differences that need to be noted as well. If we’re going to make us apart we need to look at every aspect. Some of us are too cocky. Some too humble. Some too violent. Some too peaceful. Some too afraid. Some too confident. Our personalities that sometimes have “too” much of something, why are we not insecure about that? Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m insecure due to my anger issues.” Or perhaps, “I’m insecure due to my narcissistic personality.” We have always portrayed insecurities as something related to physical attributes. And due to it being a common trait, we have almost accepted it into our culture. Being insecure is normal and okay. Because everyone is insecure, therefore, you can be too. Just like how “depression” has become a common trait, the ones who are actually depressed end up being the real victims of this new culture of normalization.

Why is it okay to be insecure? Why is it so easily accepted? It’s definitely not a good thing. As we know many people who succumb to the hollowness that insecurities bring end up being suicidal. Even then, why is it so easily accepted? We ourselves easily accept it. It’s hard to accept that one has cancer. But why is it so easy to accept that we might be depressed or insecure. Is it because it’s a mental issue? A personality defect? A lack of confidence? A lack of love?

We can easily love others, but why is it so hard to do when it comes to ourselves. Why do we keep such high expectations of ourselves, that we end up crying on the bathroom floor at 1 am depressed and anorexic. Why does society want “pretty and obedient” women and “strong and brave” men. Why can’t we just be us. Why can’t I just be me.

If we get around the thick fog of normalized insecurities and depression, we can see that we weren’t hated so much after all. Even if amongst the 7 billion population, if there is at least one person who loved us, we can keep living for the sake of that person. But it doesn’t mean, that that one person can’t be you. If you’re not loved, then at least love yourself. And if you’re loved then love yourself, because there is absolutely no reason for you not to, especially when there are people who do.

From a stranger to you, dealing with insecurities is a never ending battle. We haven’t found a definite cure for any mental illness. But the one thing they all have in common, is acceptance and love. In the case of insecurities, if love and acceptance is coming from you for yourself, it’s the most effective. And also the only cure for the hollowness it brings, is to slowly slowly fill it up again, with the pieces you once lost. Fill it up again until there’s no space left. And in case your heart gets pierced once again, it’s okay you’re strong. You have overcome it once and can do it again. As many times as it takes. Because you deserve it. The parasite that leeches off you, is a manifestation brought on by you yourself. The only one who can defeat it is you alone. Don’t succumb to its whispers. And don’t lose to its lashes. There is a 7 billion population that needs you to win this battle. You matter. You matter for everyone else. So you matter to yourself. Don’t ignore the love, when you need it. And don’t deprive yourself of the love that you can give to yourself. Love and be loved. We all are the same human beings after all, living on the same planet, sharing the same home. Why is there a need of hatred? Why is there a need of self hatred?